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How to create a guest list without falling out
Finalising a wedding guest list is one of the major causes of wedding planning rows. Unless you are William and Kate planning a Royal Wedding, where they will have no say over some of the guests who will be attending due to Royal protocol, there should be a degree of compromise on both sides. How do you decide on who to send your wedding invitations to without falling out with your partner or your family? We have created a 5 step plan to help create your wedding guest list. Sending out Save the Date cards as part of your wedding stationery package is a great idea to get your guests to book the date in their diaries. Step One - Free for all If one or both sets of parents are involved in planning your wedding, either by contributing to the cost or providing help, it is polite and fair to involve them too. They will have close friends who have been involved with you throughout the years leading up to this day, and will want to share it with them too. Work out the maximum number of guests who will attend your wedding, and make an initial list of who you would like to invite and then request both sets of parents to do the same. Step Two - Prune You will now have three lists. It's happy days if the total sum of the lists are under your maximum figure, but this is unlikely. Prune, prune and prune again. To make the decision easier, divide into three headings: Absolutely Must Invite - parents, sisters, brothers, grandparents, close family friends, Godparents Would Like to Invite - other family, parents friends, work colleagues, close friends Maybe's - distant relatives, casual friends Do not feel obliged to invite people because they invited you to their wedding, or to those that you have known for years but actually haven't seen them in years. Step Three - Agree There has to be a degree of compromise in reaching decisions. This is usually where the arguments happen. It is not that important to you that your Mother's best friend comes to the wedding, but it is to her, being the BF that has always been there through the ups and downs. Please try to understand both sides. If you are finding it impossible to agree allocate a number of guests to both sets of parents. Step Four - A B C Listers Phew, you have finally got a list that everyone agrees on. However, you do need to bear in mind that not everyone you invite will be able to come. Dividing your guests in to ABC listers helps. Send invitations to those who you Absolutely Must Invite (A list) and to Would like to Invite (B list). Hold off on the Maybe's (C list) until you get a 'regret' response. Your C list may be your evening invitations, who you can upgrade if you wish to an all-day invitation. Step Five - Don't Forget Don't forget to add the bride and groom to the list! You would be amazed at how many people forget to do that. Don't forget children and babies. Some venues do not charge for them, so they may or may not be included in the total figure. Don't forget to feed your wedding suppliers - there will be a cost involved |
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